Talking about them as though they’re not in the room
It’s demeaning. Children want to feel important and included, even in a room full of adults. When parents take their children seriously enough to include them in a conversation and speak to them instead of about them, it sends a clear message of respect. While it might be tempting to make nuanced jokes at your child’s expense to other adults, it does not go unnoticed by your child. Saying things like “she hasn’t quite figured out that I can ignore her whining all day” only builds resentment and breaks trust. Though they might not understand the details of the interaction, they certainly comprehend the undercurrents of sarcasm or frustration. Make every effort to include your child in respectful conversations with other adults, and avoid talking “over their heads” about them to others. This simple act of respect toward your child will go a long way toward proving that you are trustworthy.