Things Parents Say that Ruin Their Kids’ Trust

Making an unrealistic promise

Unrealistic promises can be just as damaging as negative threats. A parent might feel good at the moment that he or she can motivate a child to meet a goal, but any feelings of pride will be diminished if they’re not able to make good on their promise. Unless you have every intention of keeping your word, no matter how expensive, outlandish, or over the top, don’t make it in the first place. Try to encourage your child with simple rewards that aren’t of a material nature, such as time spent together, the personal satisfaction you get from reaching a goal, and words of praise and affirmation. Some parents motivate kids by posting their triumphs on a “Wall of Fame.”